Tuesday 18th June 2019,
Mummahh

THE CHALLENGES OF MOTHERHOOD

the challenges of motherhood

Motherhood is different for everybody.

It’s a simple statement but very true. Motherhood brings joy and challenges, good and bad, and everything in between. I am a mother to three wonderful children and have had my share of ups and downs.

I remember twelve years ago when I was pregnant with my first child. I read every pregnancy book available and scoured the internet for support and information. I was looking for reassurance that my body (and my growing baby) were doing all the right things…Week Nine – Your baby is the size of a green olive…

Two weeks after my first child was born we moved from the inner city, which had been my home for ten years, to the ‘burbs’. I was in a new suburb, alone, with a newborn. I was isolated and alone, well at least that’s how I felt.

I had thought that maternity leave would be this magical holiday where I would spend my days scrap booking, baking and going for long walks with my new baby.

Motherhood was nothing like I had imagined, but it wasn’t due to my lovely new son, he was a ‘text book’ child, did everything he was supposed to (just like the books said he should). He slept well, he ate well and thrived, it was me who struggled. I found myself staying in my pj’s most of the day, I was (sooo) tired and had this overwhelming feeling that I had no idea what I was doing, and what I was doing, I was doing wrong.

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Me in all my PJ glory with little Maxi

I’ve found motherhood overwhelming at times. I still doubt myself and wonder if I’m doing a good job.

Medela have done some research, in fact they have surveyed 4000 Australian mums to find out where they turn to for parenting information and support. Have a look at the infographic below which shows the results (Or you can download a pdf).

 

Medela

Seems I’m not alone with my online information seeking! Medela are supporting mums beyond their product innovation and research (they make the best breast pumps!). They have produced a great little video (below) featuring fellow bloggers who share their motherhood challenges, experiences and tips.

Medela also have an app, MyMedela which helps you track your baby’s key activities, provides expert tips and helps you get the right products for your breastfeeding needs. The MyMedela app is available free on the Apple Store & Google Play Store.

So what would my advice be to  other mums? Well I can only say what worked for me and that was too get out of the house.

I didn’t really connect with the other mother’s at the local Mother’s Group. I found it very competitive – My baby sleeps through the night, My baby feeds like clock work. And all these Mum’s seemed to look a lot less tired than me, with a full face of makeup and fancy clothes, well fancier than my tracky-dacks and (possibly baby spew stained) sloppy jo. While the Mother’s Group didn’t work for me, I know a lot of people who have made life long friends from theirs.

So after a failed attempt at Mother’s group I decided that if I could at least get out of the house.  I made it part of my routine to pop my little one in the pram and head out for a walk – every day.

Day Out

Baby Maxi ready for one of our outings.

Some days I would walk a long way, other days I would walk to my local cafe for a coffee. I became a regular at that cafe and got to know the owners who I am still friends with today. Just getting out of the house was a breath of fresh air (literally) which kept me connected with the world and got me out of my PJ’s!

Find out more about Medela at www.medela.com.au or their Facebook page.

 

Love Mummahh

Disclaimer: This is a sponsored post for Medela however these are my own words and experiences and all views expressed in this post are my own.

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Win a $100 voucher to spend at medelastore.com.au

Thanks to the wonderful people at Medela I have a $100 voucher to give away, to spend at their online store – www.medelastore.com.au

To enter: Comment below and tell me in 25 words or less who do you turn to for parenting support and advice and why?

Competition closes 8 July 2016. Full T&C’s can be found here.

53 Comments

  1. Linda July 8, 2016 at 2:00 pm

    I turn to my mother! She always has the best answers

  2. Becky Downey July 8, 2016 at 11:22 am

    My mum and also parenting websites. And other mums! Combined there is nothing we don’t know about babies and kids.

  3. Kate Slack July 8, 2016 at 10:45 am

    I turn to family and friends, they know me the best and will always give honest advice and support, and they can usually tell when I am struggling before I even ask.

  4. Tracey Taylor July 8, 2016 at 9:09 am

    I ask friends who I think have additional insight. This may be a nurse/teacher or just lots of kids. I never ask the mums who fill facebook with perfect pictures or whose kids are angels. Its the devils we need to tame so bring out the ringmasters.

  5. cheryl m July 8, 2016 at 9:01 am

    i try to use my instincts and past experiences…each child is different but alot comes down to common sense!

  6. Amy Ginis July 7, 2016 at 9:38 pm

    I am pregnant with my first, and my sister-in-law has been a wealth of knowledge!

  7. Jennifer July 7, 2016 at 9:15 pm

    I try and trust my ‘gut’ and read baby as much as I can. I figure every child is different and will have different needs.

  8. Emily Sanfead July 7, 2016 at 9:08 pm

    My 40 year old Mum to five. Always has the answer and knows what to say, she had her hands full back in the day.

  9. Rosemarie De Bari July 7, 2016 at 5:10 pm

    My best friends – non-judgemental, kind, caring and always happy to hold the baby when I needed it!

  10. Eva Kiraly July 7, 2016 at 1:15 pm

    I didn’t have anyone so I just read books but that got really confusing because not everyone thinks the same.

  11. Renee Ballantyne July 7, 2016 at 12:35 pm

    The internet as I don’t have anyone to ask

  12. Ashley Beech July 7, 2016 at 11:35 am

    My gran, she’s been more of a mother figure for me
    5 kids, 13 grandkids and 7 great grandkids later, she knows the ropes!

  13. Michelle July 6, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    My Mum, she’s already been there, done that so she gives me practical advice.

  14. Belinda July 6, 2016 at 2:23 pm

    My mother, she has had 5 children herself and has seen almost every scenario. She has a way of putting things into perspective

  15. BEC FRANCIS July 6, 2016 at 8:40 am

    hubby together we can do anything and he has done it before lol.

  16. Monique Kavanagh July 4, 2016 at 10:36 pm

    My Husband! As a team ‘we can do this’! We are each others support system and together we will totally rock this parenting thing!

  17. Elisabeth Martins July 4, 2016 at 4:42 pm

    Mum is someone, I can depend,
    If I get in trouble, she’ll defend.
    She’s the one’ that understands,
    Always willing to give me a hand.

  18. Leanne white July 4, 2016 at 4:30 pm

    My mum is always the first person because I trust her otherwise it’s my gut instinct!

  19. Belinda Smetioukh July 4, 2016 at 1:04 pm

    As well as family and friends, I find turn to the internet, blogs, and websites for non-judgmental advice sometimes!

  20. julie bennett July 3, 2016 at 8:58 pm

    my mother for I thought I turned out alright and guess she would know what to do.

  21. Daniela Barbaro July 3, 2016 at 7:14 am

    I honestly turn to the net, time has gone by since my days and look to modernise it all

  22. rhiannan dannevig July 3, 2016 at 1:52 am

    motherhood is diffrent to everybody, every mother has there own way to bring up there child, i wouldnt change my kids for the world i was scared when i had my first child but i got through it swith all the support

  23. Cassy July 1, 2016 at 3:49 pm

    My gorgeous friend Aimee who is a lactaction consultant and nurse, and, such a kind, caring beautiful person as well.

  24. Nicole M June 29, 2016 at 7:46 pm

    My partner, so we’re always on the same page.

  25. Mikaela C June 29, 2016 at 2:17 pm

    My mum because mother knows best!

  26. nicole larsen June 29, 2016 at 7:24 am

    Always my Mum, she knows the answers

  27. Cassidy June 28, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    My best friend. It’s great to get advice but from your best friend you know it’s truthful and your best interests are at heart.

  28. Kasey E June 28, 2016 at 2:28 pm

    I go to my mother as she had 5 children (3 girls, 2 boys) so she has many years experience, and she can also help me.

  29. Karina Lee June 27, 2016 at 8:43 pm

    My Whatsapp mothers group. I can count of one of them being up at 3am for advice!

  30. Teresa Clark June 27, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    It depends what sort of support/question/advice, but my husband for emotional support firstly, then my parents, depending on the question its my husband, mum and dad, midwife from the early childhood centre and friends with children GP or paediatrician, just depends on each situation.

  31. nicole larsen June 27, 2016 at 11:03 am

    My Mum always as she knows everything and is always there

  32. nicole larsen June 27, 2016 at 11:02 am

    My Mum always as she knows everything

  33. Shannon Wotton June 25, 2016 at 7:32 pm

    I always turn to my friends who have kids for advice. Odd are they’ve experienced the same things you have at some time or another and are more understanding of the struggles of parenthood because they are facing the same challenges that you are and at the same time!

    • Shannon Wotton June 25, 2016 at 7:37 pm

      Whoops 25 Words or less! Just ignore the last 25 words.

  34. Amelia June 25, 2016 at 2:21 pm

    Never my mother! She seems to have forgotten everything! Normally my most honest and brutal friends are the ones with the hardest to hear, but the best advice.

  35. nicole larsen June 24, 2016 at 9:56 am

    My mum she is always a phone call away with all the answers

  36. kcjfamily9 June 23, 2016 at 5:54 pm

    I was lucky enough to meet with the Medela team recently and we chatted about the ways that they are looking to support new mums.

  37. nicole larsen June 22, 2016 at 10:43 am

    My Mum as she always knows the answers

  38. Narelle Abbie June 19, 2016 at 11:40 am

    my Gran, she has had 5 kids, 4 of them being boys, and lost 2 babies early in pregnancy, she has a lifetime of experience and knowledge to share.

  39. carly June 18, 2016 at 11:17 am

    My hubby- we are great at working as a team and he helps me to see the bigger picture. Plus he grew up in a big family 🙂

  40. nicole larsen June 17, 2016 at 10:47 am

    Always my Mum as she seems to know what to do and can always help

  41. nicole larsen June 17, 2016 at 10:47 am

    Always my Mum as she seems to know what to do

  42. Kirsten W June 16, 2016 at 9:57 pm

    Mum – because we all know that Mum knows best!

  43. tracy Lowings June 16, 2016 at 3:47 pm

    My older sister. She was a single mum and knows alot about parenting.

  44. Xzavia green June 16, 2016 at 3:44 pm

    Any other parent with a carefree attitude because that’s the attitude i want to have too!

  45. nicole larsen June 16, 2016 at 8:59 am

    My Mum always as she seems to have all the answers

  46. Sacha June 16, 2016 at 8:38 am

    My grandma. She has the added benefit of watching generations of motherhood experiences (hers and my mums) and is truly wise and kind in her advice.

  47. VandaB June 15, 2016 at 4:31 pm

    I couldn’t do without my mothers group. Such a warm, non-judgemental, lovely bunch of women who were well researched and helpful.

  48. Heather Hopley June 15, 2016 at 2:21 pm

    Our mum’s group gives me great support and ideas. So we discuss our worries and solve our problems, while the kids have fun together. Win, win situation!

  49. Christina June 15, 2016 at 12:53 pm

    My bestfriends! They’re so experienced and they never judge me!

  50. paula June 13, 2016 at 11:08 am

    Can’t beat Mum (yup, good old Mumzee) for parenting tips…..they maybe a little old fashioned but, in my opinion, she is always a wealth of knowledge and always there for me too

    • Mummahh June 13, 2016 at 12:09 pm

      Yep Mum always has the answer 🙂

      • paula June 16, 2016 at 3:21 pm

        Yup, she sure does…..and despite saying I’ll never turn into my Mum, I cringe when I hear myself sounding like her hehehe